1. FALSE – your friends may be really uncomfortable with your behaviour but not want to tell you or are too afraid to tell you. A joke is only a joke if everyone thinks it’s a joke.
  2. FALSE – it’s never okay to hurt someone because you don’t like them. Taking revenge makes things worse, not better.
  3. FALSE – don’t make assumptions about what you can do just from the way a girl dresses. She may want attention but not that much attention from you.
  4. FALSE – it’s never appropriate to make sexual comments and gestures because you think it’s funny. It probably isn’t fun at all for those who are providing all this “entertainment”.
  5. FALSE – sexual harassment is a form of bullying. The definition of bullying is feeling entitled to use your power or status to hurt others. That’s what sexual harassment is.
  6. TRUE – any unwanted sexual touching is considered a sexual assault. Rape is the most extreme form but pinching or grabbing in a sexual way and even kissing without permission is also considered sexual assault.
  7. FALSE – using personal technology is a very common method of sexual harassment. It doesn’t make it any less “real”.
  8. TRUE – anonymous bashing on the internet is even worse, in some respects. You’ve told the world that someone is a skank and she has no idea who is saying that and is powerless to stop it.
  9. FALSE – if someone says stop, they mean stop. Nervous laughter is not the same thing as giving you permission to continue.
  10. FALSE – you need clear permission to sexually touch someone…every single time.
  11. FALSE – boys can sexually harass other boys as well as girls, girls can sexually harass boys and other girls. Everyone can be victimized by this behaviour.
  12. FALSE – don’t base your personal choices on sexual situations you see on TV, in advertising or music videos without thinking about the real life consequences first. Be media savvy!
  13. FALSE – rich and famous people might get richer and more famous by making sex tapes or posting nude photos or sexting, but you won’t. It will just embarrass and humiliate you... in front of the whole world.
  14. FALSE – just because it’s on the rack in a store doesn’t mean you have to buy it. Choose your own style and dress in a way that makes you feel confident and comfortable. Others will follow your trend.
  15. FALSE – forcing someone to play sexual games is harassment. It may be very common at your school but it is not acceptable. Don’t go along with things that make you feel uncomfortable or fearful.
  16. FALSE - it might seem that putting yourself out there sexually is the key to being popular but usually that’s not true, especially for girls. Slut and “player” are not labels that should define you now or for the rest of your life.
  17. FALSE – what you post on the internet is very public and everyone will know.
  18. FALSE – if the behaviour makes you feel uncomfortable, then it’s not okay. If that person is really your friend, they won’t feel entitled to sexually pressure you.
  19. FALSE – sexual harassment is an epidemic in schools because so many kids believe they have to keep silent or something bad will happen to them. If you report an incident in the proper way and with lots of support, you will be fine.
  20. TRUE – when you report an incident to a trusted adult, they will help you solve the problem without getting you into trouble. Adults also need to be educated on how to handle these tricky issues.
  21. TRUE – you might be surprised to find out that your parents or teachers have experienced similar pressures in their lives and can be very sympathetic. Ask adults to listen and not judge or lecture.
  22. TRUE – kids who are sexually aggressive are very often unhappy at home or have already experienced some sexual trauma. There may be seeking attention for deeper reasons than you think.
  23. FALSE – spreading sexual gossip is never okay, whether it’s true or not. Usually people don’t bother to find out the truth anyway.
  24. FALSE – find more positive ways to alleviate your boredom! Spreading sexual gossip can ruin someone’s reputation and negatively affect them for the rest of their lives.
  25. FALSE – if you stay out of it, the victim will be helpless. Intervening in these situations is easier when you get others to do the right thing with you.
  26. TRUE – standing up for a friend always makes you a better person than the name-caller. If you are being physically threatened, report it. Encourage your school to establish a safe system of reporting bullying and harassment.
  27. TRUE – respect comes from helping others and doing the right thing, not from being a bully.
  28. FALSE – sometimes, the adults in our lives don’t set a very good example. If that’s the case, get advice from trusted friends and follow your own conscience.
  29. FALSE – the research clearly shows that teens who are on a steady diet of mass media that is violent and degrading will adopt similar values. Don’t kid yourself!
  30. FALSE – there are always things you can do to stop sexual pressures and sexual harassment.

The Teen Relationship Project at York University
Toronto Public Health